What occupied your mind when you first found out you were going to be a mother?
Images of ten healthy toes and ten tiny fingers?
Maybe you were immediately tallying all of the to do list items that needed to be done in the next nine months. Or perhaps you were too busy stuffing weird food pairings into your growing belly to think about anything other than how hungry you were.
All of these thoughts, and so many more, are normal feelings. The second we find out we’re going to be a mom, something in our mind flips a switch and that momma instinct kicks in. It may not be strong at first, or we’re terrified and we may try to run from it, but it’s there. And how could it not be? We have God’s beautiful, unique creation – a being made in God’s own image (Genesis 1:27) – growing inside of us.
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
It’s amazing that we have such a large part to play in something so miraculous and intimately connected to God. And yet…
We focus on our pregnancy cravings. Then our postpartum bodies.
We focus on our to-do-before-baby-comes list. Then worrying we aren’t doing it right.
We focus on how much sleep we’re about to (not) get.
We focus on medical checkups.
And developmental milestones.
Organic baby food.
Friends and fashion.
Education. (And debt!)
And eventually, grandkids.
From the second we become mommas, the focus turns off of ourselves and onto our children. They become most important – the priority. And that’s the momma instinct. Our children are our world.
Three Things To Focus On Instead of Our Kids
But what if we also focused on ourselves through a gospel lens? Not the pre-baby stuff that used to be important, but the “mom” parts of us that will reap eternal rewards.
What would it look like to also focus on being a God-honoring wife to the father of our children?
1 Peter 3:1-6
3 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
What would it look like to also focus on being a faithful servant in the local church’s ministry where our children will learn about Jesus?
10 God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.
What would it look like to focus on being a Christ-centered momma that daily models Jesus to impressionable minds?
6 Start children off on the way they should go,
and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
If we focus on these three things, we’ll be teaching our children obedience, that serving God and others is vital, and that Jesus is the only thing that will truly fill their lives with purpose and joy.
God is the only one that should ever be at the center of our lives and blessings will abound if we do so! That means focusing on our relationship with, and obedience to, Jesus. If we do that, the legacy we leave our children will be so much more than how much fun they had at the birthday parties we threw for them and how many family vacations taken together. Our mom legacy will be unshakable, spirit-filled, heaven bound, and eternal. Not only will our children see God’s glory through us, so will our grandchildren and great-grandchildren (1 Timothy 1:5). I can’t think of anything more important to focus on than that kind of legacy.